Life has a funny way of teaching us lessons. Putting unexpected challenges and circumstances along our journey. Some that we handle and overcome calmly. Others, that are no laughing matter, causing strong amounts of pain and uncertainty. It is the painful ones that we question the most, as to why these sorts of awful things happen to us? ❤
It is never nice to find out that a loved one has betrayed you, whether it is a partner, family member or a friend. As it is also not a great feeling to discover you have health issues or have lost your job. These are matters of painful events that can happen to any of us. Ones that we may endure at some point of our lives. Of course, each person handles things differently ❤
A person who is betrayed may be able to forgive and still have a loving relationship with the person who has betrayed them, as long as the betrayer has showed remorse and will not repeat such poor actions. Whereas, another person may or may not be able to forgive and would rather cut the person out of their life due to the substantial pain.
Both mistakes and bad choices can cause trouble for all those involved. A mistake is something that happens by accident, such as writing an answer that you thought was right on a test and then after completing the test you realise you wrote the wrong answer. Therefore it is a mistake. A bad choice is when you are fully aware of your actions, have an inner gut feeling that it is wrong to do what you are about to do. Yet, you do it anyway.
Since you chose to intentionally do something, knowing that it was wrong. It is a bad choice and not a mistake. This can be things like secretly spending time with someone else when you are in a committed relationship or talking bad about a friend behind their back. Bad choices are immoral but some people unfortunately go through with their bad choices and cause a lot of pain.
I do believe that people can change. So if you know that you have made some terrible choices in your life, you can choose to change. Will changing get the person you hurt to forgive you? Possibly, it depends on how badly you hurt them, plus a ton of other surrounding points. Even if a person cannot forgive you, change for yourself so that you can live the rest of your life on good terms 🙂
If you have been badly hurt by someone, please know that whatever they did is not your fault. They made the choice. Even if you in some little way provoked them or at the time was not there for them. They are the one who hurt you and have to work on themselves to become better. You cannot change or do the work for them. Just like making a bad choice, they can put in the effort to make a good decision to shred their awful behaviours and have them replaced with wonderful behaviours 😀
There are many things that can determine how a person behaves. Particularly how they were raised. They may have come from a dysfunctional family, had bad experiences in school – having been bullied and never learnt to love themselves. These can all contribute to who a person is today, however they should not let past circumstances be an excuse. Wrong doings need to be seen for what they are. To change for the better is up to them.
The first step to changing for anyone is to learn to love yourself. When you learn self-love, nothing can influence you to bend your values or tempt you into making a bad choice. You will have that ability to say no and treasure those you love the most. You will appreciate your partner, family and friends more than ever, as you will be able to reflect the love that you have for yourself on to them ❤
Today on my YouTube channel I am sharing with you a green and white elegant green trees monochrome acrylic painting. I love how refreshing and wonderful the green tones are. Nature is the best, always making me feel calm and relaxed whenever I am outside with the trees. I will continue to paint other single colour paintings as it is a lot of fun. Monochrome paintings are magical and a lovely challenge ❤
I hope you enjoy the video. Thank you so much for reading and watching! Do your best to learn to forgive those who have hurt you, as it is not worth carrying such pain through life. You can become stronger with every experience you go through. Focus on yourself and do the things that you love the most. Have a good day!
Capili Jiron x x